Relationship Coaching

Conscious Uncoupling and Reconciliation

Studies show that 45-50% of first marriages end in divorce. Second marriages have an even higher rate of divorce, at 60-65%. For third marriages, the divorce rate is 70-75% Additionally, close to 50% of people that get married in their mid to late twenties will end their marriage in divorce. Also, people who get married after 30 only have a 8.3% odds of getting divorced. This is a significant difference.

When a couple feels that they want to end their marriage, it's often best to seek guidance from an expert that will allow them to process their emotions and understand the reasons for the breakdown of their relationship. Where there is motivation, it's sometimes possible to learn new skills for communication that may create a space for reconciliation. This takes a willingness and openness from both people involved to change the behaviors that contributed to the breakdown of the relationship.

Sometimes this is not possible and this is where conscious uncoupling comes in. This expression was popularized by Katherine Woodward Thomasin 2014, a US marriage therapist and author who suggests a method of dealing with breakups in a positive way by focusing on the idea of 'completing' (rather than ending) a relationship. Conscious uncoupling refers to the act of ending a marriage or relationship in a way that is perceived as a very positive step by both parties, who believe that their lives will be better for doing so, and that they can continue to remain civil, co-parent if they have children, and possibly grow a deep and loving friendship with one other.

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